Sometimes we seek to escape stress by distracting ourselves, spending money on literal escapes, or self-medicating. None of these actions solve the problem; when it's over, the stress returns. What I want you to try will give you a chance to reflect and hopefully recenter yourself. Ready? Let's begin.
- Schedule nothing. As I've always advocated, a day of true discovery and recovery will never come if you're running errands or scheduling anything at all. You're going to have plenty of nothing to do on your day of rest. This is essential for the success of Step 2.
- Sleep in. Turn any alarm off--I would suggest covering up or unplugging any clocks in your bedroom. Ask anyone in your home who might normally wake you to leave you be ahead of time. Keep your curtains drawn. The night before, go to bed whenever it feels comfortable, not an artificially scheduled time based on your normal routine.
- Go watchless/clockless. Teachers might be the last group of professionals still relying on watches all the time--there's an increasing trend among the young generations to forgo watches in favor of the clocks on their cell phone. This is a simple gesture but has an amazing affect in and of itself. Try it for today, and I guarantee you'll be looking for more opportunities to disconnect. This plan is about not planning, and most of us are so completely tied down to what the time tells us to do. As soon as you stop thinking about what time it is, you're free to think about what you want to do right now.
- Go completely analog. The next logical step to not thinking about the time is to disconnect from the digital world that also keeps us in artificial cycles of thought. This means no cell phone, no Internet, no TV and so on today. Any one of these devices can immediately anchor you to your conventional routines and trigger stereotypes about what you're supposed to be doing at certain times of the day. You're actually supposed to be doing whatever you want to be doing, and completely disconnecting from everything else.
- Go outside, and go forth! At this point you should be starting to feel a disconnect from the limits we place on ourselves by way of time. Now you need to get out of the house and head somewhere that will help our mind disconnect from our normal places. Find the simplest way to get going, whatever that might be, and go. Your destination should be separate from and different than what you're used to. It's sort of a choose your own adventure, and what you choose to do with it is up to you. You might take this time to think, or to not think at all. It depends on what you need, and I think once you take the first four steps, you'll already know what that something (or nothing) might be.
5 comments:
Good post, good advice! Its so hard to separate yourself from schedules and obligations. I haven't done it in a while, but last time I did, I felt like a carefree teenager again!
Great tips!
For me, one of the best ways to deal with my teaching-related stress is to find a way to put it in perspective. This often happens spontaneously and unexpectedly, like a conversation I had earlier this year.
I was feeling overwhelmed by teaching in a new school. After school, I asked a fellow new teacher (from the engineering department) how her year was going, and she (shockingly!) commented on how much LESS stressful teaching was than her previous job. She had been working as a structural engineer, and she said that she used to have constant nightmares about making a mistake that caused a structure to collapse. She said that no matter how much went wrong in her day while teaching, she could feel sure that she wouldn't cause any deaths.
Wow. Suddenly my pile of grading seemed a lot less urgent and I felt lucky to have a job where I could make a mistake without that fear! No one will die if my lesson isn’t perfect, and I try to remember that when I start feeling stressed.
Great tips, especially the one about going clockless/watchless! I am part of the generation that relies heavily on my cell phone. One day I was running late and accidentally left it on the kitchen table and it was the BEST day in the world. I didn't feel restricted and got so much more done than I could have ever imagined. I'm sure part of it had to do with the fact that I needed to finish everything ASAP so I could get back home to my phone, but it didn't matter. It was definitely a stress-free day for me! I recommend everyone go cell phone-less for a day! =)
But anyway to add to your great list of tips, I think you should take a look at TeachHUB's Daily Stress Buster section on the Teacher Tips page: http://www.teachhub.com/teacher-tips/
The watch/clock thing is so spot on. The day I graduated from high school was the day I stopped wearing a watch. 7 years later, returning as a teacher, I wear a watch again. I hate it. Hate it with such vengance!
Alycia: The feeling after I went watchless was definitely the inspiration for this post. It's so much more powerful than most people think.
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